Dear Gabby,
I am getting married in just a few weeks, and we choose not to have a pastor marry us. My future mother-in-law called from up north and requested that we get married in the church. This is not what we want to do, but I do not want to create hard feelings with my new family. This isn’t the only issue they have tried to control since we have gotten engaged. Please tell me this will get better after we say “I Do”!
Sincerely, Wedding Bell Blues Dear Wedding Bell Blues,
I can’t say for sure that it will get better quickly. Marriage is give and take and sometimes that means giving more than taking. On issues that you feel strongly about, I wouldn’t give in. But on issues that you could bend a little, I would just show that you are willing to compromise. A saying that my mother used to say, since I myself have two brothers, is one that I remembered when I got married. “ A son is your son until he takes a wife, but your daughter is your daughter all of her life.” Just remember, one day you too will be a “Mother-in-law”. Good Luck! Dear Gabby,
I have three bridesmaids in my wedding. They are all different sizes and are worried that the dress I choose won’t look good on ALL of them. How do I pick a dress style that will compliment all of them?
Sincerely, “ In a Dress Mess” Dear In a Dress Mess,
I spoke with Linda at Jayne Lewis Bridal and she described a new line of dresses that they carry. They are called “Bridesmaids Separates”. With these dresses you can choose to have the same color and fabric, but all the dresses can have different tops and bottoms to them. So you can have all the girls look their best and still have the color you choose. If this is not an option, a “princess style” or “A-line” dress always looks good on all different shapes. Dear Gabby,
My boyfriend and I are not agreeing on what kind of music to be played at the ceremony. My boyfriend says that we can just have a tape play the music. But, I have always wanted the real thing. We can not afford to have a band play, what can we do?
Sincerely, Out of Tune Dear Out of Tune,
I spoke with Leslie Gregory from Wingsong Harp and Flute Duo and what she suggest is that you can have the “real thing” and not go over your budget. Just imagine how elegant it will be for you to walk down the aisle while a Harp and Flutist is playing... I say tell your boyfriend get in tune and go for it! Dear Gabby,
I am wondering if you can help me with the benefits of having a professional videographer do our wedding and reception. I have had offers by family and friends that they would bring their cameras and tape it for free. That is hard to resist. What should I do? Is it worth it?
Sincerely, “Left On The Cutting Room Floor” Dear Left On The Cutting Room Floor,
While planning your wedding you may have many friends and family that will offer to help. Having them tape your wedding can be a fun home movie. But remember that a lot can happen on that day. For example, my own wedding tape consisted of the ground, because my uncle thought the tape was off, so he turned it “on” to tape, but was really turning the camera “off”. I regret not having a professional that day so I called John at VCR-Productions and his advice is that a professional will have the right batteries, lighting and most have wireless microphones. Iif you want to truly capture the day on tape, you should go with a professional. This also allows for editing and will be given to you on a professional quality tape that will last a lifetime.
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